Many of you have wrote in asking about how to deal with friends, family members, and significant others who may not support or understand the way you express yourself. To be honest, I struggle with this as well and it is difficult.
Unfortunately, people in our lives sometimes feel as though they have a say in how we present ourselves to the world. Whether it’s the clothing you wear, the tattoos and piercings you get, the hair color you chose, or all of the above plus some. I think it’s important to know that those are your choices. Sometimes that is complicated by financial dependency and other negotiations that you and your loved ones have made so… there may be give and take until you can support yourself.
However, when you’re on your own and others disapprove of the way you choose to handle your body just know that you are not alone. There are others out there and we’re figuring it out day by day. Don’t feel like you have to justify yourself to anyone. Don’t change yourself to meet others’ expectations or desires for you. No one knows you like you do. As long as you are happy and healthy, nothing more should matter.
Love yourself, be true to yourself, and the opposing force will seem weaker each day.
Words of Wisdom from Bing of I Dream of Dapper. I love the honesty in this post. Yes, I realize this is turning into a “it gets better” spiel, I’m but I’m saying it because it’s true. And if you want proof:
Here’s me two years ago presenting femininely: x
Here’s a picture that was taken probably 5-6 months after that picture:x
Here’s me last year (where I am now): x
Folks, I’m saying this, because, I too, unfortunately, learned the hard way. I fell into that abyss of trying to please people and I almost completely destroyed what was the truest thing about myself. I Also I further reiterate that even if you can’t be true to yourself right now for whatever reason, remember that there’s always hope for you later on.
Maybe right now, presenting as yourself is dangerous. Or, if you where like me, you where surrounding yourself with people who brought it upon themselves to tell you how you should really be.Or maybe you’re just afraid. Any reason you give is OK. Just please, remember to be kind to yourself.
Reblogged from androstyle